True Love Magazine – November 2011
Incredible
Journey – Kathy Kiuna went from a humble secretary to one of Kenya’s
most charismatic preachers. She tells Damaris Irungu how it came about
The
hand-written birthday poem on the wall of Pastor Kathy Kiuna’s office
is sentimental, something a man would write to his bride of perhaps a
year. But Pastor Allan Kiuna wrote these words last year, when they had
already been married for 17 years. Allan Kiuna is one romantic man, and
Kathy is one lucky woman, as she readily admits. “I have a man who is
not afraid to express himself,” she says. “I don’t take that lightly.”
Kathy
Kiuna is wearing a pair of stylish black jeans and a long blue sweater
that matches her stilettos. After greeting me with a warm hug, she takes
me to her spacious office, furnished with black leather chairs and baby
pink cushions. A pink rug on the floor completes the look. Kathy Kiuna
is a senior pastor at Jubilee Christian Church in Nairobi. Her husband
is the general overseer of the church. Unlike many women of the clergy
who become known simply as “the pastor’s wife”, Kathy is a pastor and
spiritual leader in her own right. How does that gel with the fact that
she is married to a pastor?
“I know my place – I am second,” she
explains. “My husband is the head of the home. Whenever there are
decisions to be made, we discuss them. Sometimes we agree to disagree,
but his word is final.”
Kathy counters these arguably
old-fashioned sentiments with a thought-provoking reminder: “However,
for women to rise, the man has to support her, lift her up. It is the
husband’s duty to raise his wife.”
Kathy and Allan, who never shy away from showing their affection in public, met in an interesting way.
“He
was at a phone booth, having a conversation with his mother (that’s
what he told me!), and I passed by on my way to church. He told his mum
to hang on a sec, then called out to me, asking me to give him a minute
as he wanted to speak to me. The only reason I stopped was because he
had called me by my name. After ending his conversation with his mum, he
told me straight up that he wanted to get to know me and asked if he
could buy me lunch.
I turned him down, saying I was busy. I was in
fact busy as I was headed to join the praise and worship team for the
lunch time service. But this did not deter him and he pursued me
relentlessly.
On our first date he made it clear that he wanted to
get married. That was in January. By December the same year I said ‘I
do’, and became Mrs Kiuna. I was 25 and he was 27.”
Kathy’s spiritual journey started when she was 22. She was something of a wild child in high school (CGHU Parklands).
“I
was the cheeky girl, the party girl, the totally crazy chic, not the
kind of girl you would have picked for salvation,” she laughs. “My
friends from high school got the shocker when they heard I got saved.”
After
high school, she went to Queensway Secretarial College. She was working
as a secretary and singing in the worship team at Faith Evangelist
Ministries under Teresia Wairimu when she met Allan, also a member of
the church. At that point, there was nothing to tell her that great
things were about to happen.
The newlyweds opened a printing business, but it did not do well, and they were forced to close.
“God took us through a gruesome experience,” she says of those days.
“We
were penniless, with not even a roof over our heads. A kind widow
graciously took us in. It was at this time that we set out to actively
seek God and His plans for us.
“Then came the day that changed our
lives. In September 1998, God sent His prophet, a man named Macdonald,
to preach at Teresia Wairimu’s church. He called us to the front of the
church and began to prophesy. He told my husband that God was going to
give him an office, a big office where he was going to raise leaders. He
told me that I was going to be a psalmist, that I was going to write
songs that touch lives.”
“We were surprised and shocked. How was
God going to do this? But we took his word for it and waited. One day,
God spoke, telling us to start a church on 17 January 1999.”
Looking back, Kathy remembers how some of their friends trashed them when they invited them to come to their church.
“They
blatantly told us that they were not going to join us and become part
of the mockery, but this did not stop us. God had put in us such a
passion that nothing was going to shake us, but the doubt came sometimes
as we wondered how we were going to start a church without a single
coin to our name.”
But the couple was determined to obey God.
First, they needed premises.
“We
found it at Temus Restaurant, owned by Terry Mungai of Ashley’s, who
was gracious enough to let us use it for Ksh3,700 a month. At the time,
it sounded like Ksh3.7 million! But God had a plan and soon we started
getting volunteers: someone offered to print fliers free of charge and
one pastor gave us an envelope with Ksh 10,000. That was indeed a
miracle! We had found our budget plus extra to give the congregation
biscuits and tea after church.”
Sunday, 17 January 1999 arrived,
and the 40-seater venue was filled to capacity with friends, family and
curious spectators. The Kiunas were thoroughly pleased – but the
following Sunday, they had a congregation of only six.
“Our
friends and family had come to support us for the premier of the church,
but they moved on to their respective churches after that first Sunday.
It was shocking to see just six people, but we kept the faith and over
the months the numbers fluctuated from eight people to five to ten … and
today Jubilee Christian Church boasts a congregation of five thousand
regular attendees.”
In the early days, Kathy would lead worship
and Allan would preach. With the growth of their church, duties are
divided differently today, but Kathy still mostly leads the choir. She
is a talented musician who has released four albums, three with friends
and one solo album, In the Fullness of Time, which chronicles some of
the darker times of their spiritual journey.
From secretary to praise and worship leader … this would be enough for most women. But more was to come.
“My
husband told me that I should become a woman’s pastor and should lead a
ministry for women,” she recalls. “He had seen what I had gone through
when we were down and out, when I couldn’t even afford a sanitary towel,
and he knew I could connect with women and encourage them. Another
pastor confirmed my husband’s vision.”
So in 2003, Kathy’s ministry Daughters of Zion was born. Focusing on uplifting women, the ministry’s monthly seminars attract thousands of women.
“God
gave me a passion for women,” Kathy says. “I want to see women change
for good, to believe in themselves, to fulfill their destinies. A lot of
women are so beautiful but they don’t see it, they let men belittle
them and tell them what to do.”
Not content with being co-founder
of a busy church, Kathy has also found time to write. She has authored
Celebrate Yourself “and Woman Without Limits, and a third book will be
out soon. Oh, and she designs clothes for fun!
Kathy Kiuna is no
stranger to controversy. Recently, pictures of their house circulated on
social media, followed by outraged comments that pastors who serve God
should not live extravagant lives. Kathy has no apologies.
“Those
who talk only know the ‘after’; they should have seen the ‘before’ to
appreciate the work of God,” she says. “He has raised us up in the
church and the church is as good as its flock – if the flock is walking
in poverty, so will the church.
Many in our congregation are
living well; this is just the tip of the iceberg, we are only warming
up, we are coming. We were called by God to raise leaders and that is
exactly what we are doing – raising people to be the best they can be,
and as they grow, so do we. Besides, you can never pay a pastor enough.”
So is Jubilee Christian Church preaching the prosperity gospel?
“We
serve a prosperity God,” Kathy counters. “God wants us to be prosperous
in every single way. His desire for us is to walk in abundance. I am
praying for church people to show the likes of Bill Gates dust!”
Kathy is in her early 40s but looks several years younger. How does she do it?
“I
work out every single day, and my husband recently persuaded me to play
golf. At first I was very reluctant, ‘Where is the fun in walking after
a ball?’ I asked, but the minute I started getting the ball into the
holes I was hooked, and now I love it.”
This couple keeps their church and private lives separate.
“We
don’t let anything come in between us, not even ministry. We have
boundaries which we expect the congregation to respect. Our house is not
for fellowship, and we don’t move our kids from bedroom to bedroom to
give room to believers.
We have offices at the church where we can
discuss church matters. Some church people allow the flock to take over
their private lives and end up with no home; this just strains family
relationships.”
A normal day for Kathy starts at 6am.
“Between 6-8am we share in prayer, then hit the gym to exercise. Monday is our day off so we go off to play some golf.
Tuesday
we have counselling sessions at the church, Wednesday is prayer
meetings for Daughters of Zion, Thursday we are busy at the mentorship
school at JCC, Friday we usually have overnight prayers at the church so
we start preparing for that and also the Sunday service. In the evening
we try as much as possible to spend it as family.”
The Kiunas are
blessed with three children: Vanessa, 21, who is studying law in
Australia, Stephanie, 16, who is in high school, and Jeremy, 11, their
“miracle” baby.
“Jeremy was born prematurely at six months,
weighing just 1.1 kilograms. He has cerebral palsy, but is so bright and
intelligent. The only thing he cannot do is walk by himself; he walks
with the support of a stick. But we are trusting God to get him to
walk.”
“He was born when I was in the US. He was checked from head
to toe, but doctors found nothing amiss. It was only when he was a year
and half and still not walking that we realised something was wrong. A
neurosurgeon eventually made the diagnosis.”
“Emotionally
sometimes we get deflated, waiting on God to do something, make him
walk. A year comes and goes, then another, and in my prayers I’m like,
‘God, I never expected You to take this long!’ But we know God is
preparing a testimony for Jeremy; Jeremy has made us know God more,
helped us realise that he is still a miracle.”
In
church, Kathy’s husband often refers to her as his “darling wife” and
uses sweet names when addressing her in public. Romance is clearly part
and parcel of this happy marriage, but what is the glue that keeps them
together?
“Love and respect for each other is crucial, but the focus must be on God,” Kathy says.
“Every
person has flaws but you can only get past the flaws with Christ in
your life. A wife should respect and honour her husband and the husband
should respect and love his wife. He must support her in her dreams so
she can become the best that she can be.
Wives, also remember your
place in the home: it is not first, but second, regardless of the
circumstances. When a man is comfortable in his place, he will let you
be comfortable in yours.”
So how does this woman of God feel about divorce?
“What
God has put together let no man put asunder … but some marriages God
did not put together. There are some marriages where couples cannot
stand each other; they are tired of each other and are always happier
when apart.
To those I would say, ‘Move on if you must, maybe it
wasn’t God after all.’ But first you need to ask yourself, did I give
the marriage my all? Could the fault lie with me, rather than him? Try
your level best so that if Jesus returned today, He wouldn’t hold it
against you, because you will have done your 100%.”
The Kiunas
attribute the phenomenal growth of their church – they have branches in
Kenya, the US, the UK and South Africa – to “great mentors” such as
Teresia Wairimu and Pastor TD Jakes. During the interview, Kathy tells
me that they are going to Miami in the US in October to preach and meet
Pastor Jakes. “We are raising leaders and sending them forth.”
Kathy
seems to have her hands full, so how does she keep a balance?
“Actually, I purpose to have the balance: I have my me-time, get into
the Jacuzzi and relax, go out with some girls and have a good laugh, I
purpose to find the time to do all these things, even to read.”
Her
final words end on a typically positive note: “As a woman you should
love yourself and be a go-getter. Many women are looking outside for
fulfilment, but that is wrong. Whatever you need to fulfil yourself is
on the inside. Don’t limit yourself to what you can become – find
yourself as a woman and go up!”
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